The secrets we keep

So I witnessed something odd last night.

I was sitting on the couch, watching TV as Souljourneyboy made some tea and toast.  Out of the corner of my eye I saw him grab the toast as it popped up – and then put it in the freezer.

As you can imagine, I was somewhat perplexed.

I said, “Did you just put your toast in the freezer?”

Somewhat sheepishly, Souljourneyboy replied, “Ah, yes. I wondered if you’d notice that.”

I replied, “Can I ask why?”

He answered, “Well, I either like toast really hot, or really, really cold.”

“Have you always done that? Like, since we’ve been married?”

“Yes, I’ve always done it, you just didn’t know about it,” he told me.

Well, there you go. I was gobsmacked – not just by the rather random act of freezing hot toast (I mean, who does that?) but more by the fact that Souljourneyboy has managed to keep this peculiar little secret all this time.

We don’t have many secrets (as far as I know). Souljourneyboy and I have known each other since we were in Year 6 together.  My first memory of him is when I walked through the door of the school classroom and he whacked me in the face. He had been rubbing his sneakers on the carpet to create static, and was trying to give other kids electric shocks (fortunately he’s grown out of this now).

I also have a distinct memory of my then-good-friend teasing me mercilessly because I had talked to Souljourneyboy in the classroom.

“Woo hoo!” she cried. “You love him. You’re going to MARRY him.”

I am not!” I yelled, outraged.

Anyhow, I digress.

We became best friends in Year 10, started “going out” in Year 11 and got married at 21. We’ve been together more than half our lives. There’s not a lot we don’t know about each other – or so I thought. I tried to think of things Souljourneyboy didn’t know about me. You know, quirky things.

Some of them are obvious – like the fact I often wake up screaming about imaginary spiders in the room – but some are more subtle. Like – my enjoyment of trashy romance novels (no, he knows that). Or – my irrational dislike of clusters (it’s not quite trypophobia, but I just don’t like clusters – pumpkin seeds, for examples. They make me feel icky. Anyway I remembered I had told him that, and he thought I was crazy).

Well I couldn’t think of anything. But there must be something – after all, you can never REALLY know EVERYTHING about another person, can you? And that’s probably a good thing. (Still, I won’t be letting him make my toast for me.

Actually, I think I have just thought of something. When I’m driving, I don’t really consider a merge successful unless I avoid bumping my tyres on any reflectors.

So there you go. I suppose we do all have our secrets after all.

7 thoughts on “The secrets we keep

  1. Asta

    My husband never ceases to surprise me. In fact, the longer we are married the more he catches me off guard. What once was true of us has sometimes changed. I guess that keeps marriage interesting?!

  2. Peta W

    You have the cluster thing too? OMG Emma! My husband thinks I’m crazy and just making it up. I’m so glad it’s not just me! Loving the blog by the way, some of your memories are my memories too. xx

  3. janinejackson

    Oh my gosh! Nobody has ever understood what the hell I’m talking about when I try to explain that I don’t like ‘dots or round things close together’. As soon as I read you describing a ‘cluster’ of pumpkin seeds, I felt my skin crawl! And then I felt icky for ages!! I just googled trypophobia and I couldn’t even finish the test to see if I have it. My skin is still crawling!!!!!!!!!!!

    I was trying to deseed a pomegranate on the weekend and it was almost making me want to run away. Yay! I’m not alone!!

  4. souljourneygirl

    Oh I am so glad I have found my fellow weirdos! I had a shower yesterday an the droplets formed a cluster on my shoulder and I felt so ill! Jabine maybe SW will put up some money for group therapy. Peta – so glad you are enjoying the blog! And Asta – so true. I hope we keep learning lots about each other 🙂

  5. Peta W

    Cooked rice. Seriously, don’t look at it while you’re eating it. There are also a couple of other things I can’t even speak about or I will be having nauseating flashes for days.

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